by We need to reserve the right to be wrong. Mistakes will happen. Errors will be made. We need to accept nothing is perfect.
If we fail to reserve the right to be wrong for each other, then we risk never risking anything.
We will all be too afraid to try anything new or to think something next because we don’t want to disappoint expectation or upset the status quo.
The greatest test of our right to fail is found in how we teach our children to fail. Winning is easy. Losing can be devastating.
How is it possible to live with being wrong in a society where the commoditization of being right is what runs the culture?
Are there those that rely on their failure to succeed? If so, how do we prevent the common failures from usurping those with extraordinary dreams and failed overachieving?
The right to be wrong must be viciously defended on both sides: Failing is fine; failing as a habit of action is deadly.
Sometimes failure is one of my favourite things. I learn so much more from failure than success. It feels a lot better to succeed, of course. 🙂
I agree that failure provides valuable lessons, Gordon. The temptation is to want to learn everything via failing than ever tempting success.
Hi David,
Yes, we should have the right to be wrong as long as the casualties are less…
I agree nothing is perfect and noone is flawless…it’s the understanding of the situation and/ or each other that either make or break the status quo.
The best lesson from failing is learning not to repeat the same blunder ever.
I like your argument, Katha! You’re right about repetitive failure on the same topic being unacceptable. What do you do with those that are unable to learn from their failing?
Hi David,
I try different approaches to make people understand, as long as my expectation level from some one is low; but if my expectation level is high then the entire situation becomes shocking.
How do you meter your expectation with new people, Katha? Is your initial sensibility set to high or low? What changes that first gut reaction?
I get to hear a “click” David, sometimes it’s clear, sometimes faint, sometimes real loud and sometimes not at all.
My expectation meter gets set based on that reaction.
Definitely not a flawless process and I have learnt to accept my mistake…
I’m not sure what you mean by “click” — can you explain what you mean, Katha?
Hi David,
A “click” is an instant connection with various range of depth.
It’s either there, or it isn’t.
Got it, Katha. That’s a fascinating way of dealing with people!
This is not a very conscios effort from my part David, it just happens.
David!
The ability to cope with failure is a valuable lesson. As is handling success. And often we won’t know one until we know the other. The hardest thing is to probably see them both equally.
I got it, Katha. I think the audible “click” is what threw me a bit.
That’s a good point, Dananjay. We can’t know failure or true success without dealing with the opposite first.
I understand you having trouble with the word, it’s inaudibly audible for me – always…
Amazing, Katha! Do love and danger also have audible clues for you?
Yes David, but I have a tendency to talk myself out of both the two as those “clicks” are not based on any sound rationale.
As a result of it, I might straightway walk into an open manhole if it doesn’t have a “danger” sign on it, at the same time – I might miss the most significant miracle in my life just because it doesn’t have a billboard announcing the same.
Thanks for the deeper detail, Katha!